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Hamish · 11-01-2014, 10:05 PM

Just frustrated with barely getting by.

fesso clown · 11-01-2014, 10:53 PM

Wow, sounds like you're having a really rough time. It's good that you are express these things... that's a start. I don't know you, I don't know what to say to you except keep reaching out, express your frustration, sadness, anger and despair, allot more good will come that way rather than keeping it to yourself.
Jeff

EDIT:
I don't want to sound flippant but also reach out and share the good things too, that things that fill you with wonder, the thing that make you laugh and the things you are grateful for...

Hamish · 11-01-2014, 11:36 PM

I try to think about what makes me happy but I'm just not likein life anymore. seems that every decision I make is wrong. I'm sick of being disappointed and of disappointing every one I ever cared about.

Crayon · 11-02-2014, 02:23 AM

Hey Hamish,

I agree w Fesso 100%. It sounds like you are really frustrated, and it must be so difficult to feel like you are trying your hardest and everything goes south. You have a right to be upset. The cool thing is, this is the forum you chose to voice your pissed offed ness.

So yell, scream, say everything you need to. We can all offer you support.

TorontoPlantMan · 11-02-2014, 02:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Hamish

I try to think about what makes me happy but I'm just not likein life anymore. seems that every decision I make is wrong. I'm sick of being disappointed and of disappointing every one I ever cared about.

I once felt the same way as you after disappointment after disappointment; I'm sure we've all felt this way at times and been through our share or hard times/ups and downs but you have to find something that brings out the happiness for you, even if it's small. The power of positive thinking is something far more powerful than many of us can understand but as cheesy as it sounds if you see it, believe it, and believe in yourself ANYTHING is possible.

Keep your head up man.

P.S. - I learnt a long time ago to never rely on anyone except yourself, the best way to get something done is doing it yourself.

Kirk

tom g · 11-02-2014, 09:06 AM

hey man ,I totally agree with Toronto plant man don't depend on others to do this and that , they set u up for failure when they don't show or don't do what is expected , take care of number one first .
keep your head up man ....things will get better just seems like it is taking forever.....
cheers

Hamish · 05-27-2019, 11:07 PM

I really want to thank you guys, when i look back now on how i felt then, it was total despair, even when things started turning around i felt like a very broken man, i wept over the people i lost. The disappointment that i was.

I just read that first post again and i was a broken person, i did end up getting help from an old friend but as it turned out they had there own motives which was terrible. I guess i got a lot stronger over time.

My life now isn,t perfect but i,m happily retired, i met a terrific lady and she loves this hobby as well, listen if you guys are still here and active, thanks for your encouragement, i found it hard to believe that any one would care enough to speak out and you did, you made a difference,

Thanks again Jim

Hamish · 06-14-2019, 10:24 PM

Please close this thread, thanks

11-01-2014, 10:05 PM	#1
Hamish Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2014 Location: Wingham, ON, Canada Posts: 279 Feedback Score: (1)	Sick of depending on others Just frustrated with barely getting by. __________________ 125, 6ft Dual Overflow, 55 Sump, Swc 150, Jebao 5000, 2x Heaters, 2x Gfo Rx, 2x QP900, Led, T5Ho, 160 lbs Rock, 3 inches Argonite, Big Fuge with Cheato and Rock, Frogspawn, Torch, Grn and Blk Flor, Brain, Leathers, Cabbage Coral, Crotea Clam, Zoas, Mushrooms, Gsp, Foxface, Purple Tang, Leapard Wrasse, Engineer Goby, 2x B&W Clowns, 10 Turbos, 10 Nazz. Emerald Crab, Blood Shrimp, 2x Pepperments, Last edited by Hamish; 11-01-2014 at 10:36 PM.. Reason: just bored i guess

11-01-2014, 10:53 PM	#2
fesso clown Dis-membered Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Toronto Island Posts: 2,408 Feedback Score: (41)	Wow, sounds like you're having a really rough time. It's good that you are express these things... that's a start. I don't know you, I don't know what to say to you except keep reaching out, express your frustration, sadness, anger and despair, allot more good will come that way rather than keeping it to yourself. Jeff EDIT: I don't want to sound flippant but also reach out and share the good things too, that things that fill you with wonder, the thing that make you laugh and the things you are grateful for... __________________ "Time flies like an arrow, fruit flies like a banana." Marx. (Groucho) Last edited by fesso clown; 11-01-2014 at 10:57 PM..

11-01-2014, 11:36 PM	#3
Hamish Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2014 Location: Wingham, ON, Canada Posts: 279 Feedback Score: (1)	Sick I try to think about what makes me happy but I'm just not likein life anymore. seems that every decision I make is wrong. I'm sick of being disappointed and of disappointing every one I ever cared about. __________________ 125, 6ft Dual Overflow, 55 Sump, Swc 150, Jebao 5000, 2x Heaters, 2x Gfo Rx, 2x QP900, Led, T5Ho, 160 lbs Rock, 3 inches Argonite, Big Fuge with Cheato and Rock, Frogspawn, Torch, Grn and Blk Flor, Brain, Leathers, Cabbage Coral, Crotea Clam, Zoas, Mushrooms, Gsp, Foxface, Purple Tang, Leapard Wrasse, Engineer Goby, 2x B&W Clowns, 10 Turbos, 10 Nazz. Emerald Crab, Blood Shrimp, 2x Pepperments,

11-02-2014, 02:23 AM	#4
Crayon Trouble Join Date: Apr 2014 Location: Coldwater Posts: 2,406 Feedback Score: (34)	Hey Hamish, I agree w Fesso 100%. It sounds like you are really frustrated, and it must be so difficult to feel like you are trying your hardest and everything goes south. You have a right to be upset. The cool thing is, this is the forum you chose to voice your pissed offed ness. So yell, scream, say everything you need to. We can all offer you support. __________________ Lots of temporary tanks waiting for renovations.....

11-02-2014, 09:06 AM	#6
tom g Devoted Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: don mills Posts: 3,935 Feedback Score: (80)	head up hey man ,I totally agree with Toronto plant man don't depend on others to do this and that , they set u up for failure when they don't show or don't do what is expected , take care of number one first . keep your head up man ....things will get better just seems like it is taking forever..... cheers __________________ 90 gallon reef ready tank ... hippo tang , yellow tang, 1 damsel ,flame hawk (favorite ),watchman goby ,harlequin star fish (hides boring ) bi -color blenny,cleaner wrasse , bengai cardinal,twin spot goby, mandarin . sand sifting star fish , elusive marine betta(MIA - shows him self periodically -boring ) in progress TBA.....project tranquility ............ 90 gallon dual drilled tank with sump vertex 100-in 2 - evergrow leds ,dual t5 48" aquatic life fixture

05-27-2019, 11:07 PM	#7
Hamish Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2014 Location: Wingham, ON, Canada Posts: 279 Feedback Score: (1)	I really want to thank you guys, when i look back now on how i felt then, it was total despair, even when things started turning around i felt like a very broken man, i wept over the people i lost. The disappointment that i was. I just read that first post again and i was a broken person, i did end up getting help from an old friend but as it turned out they had there own motives which was terrible. I guess i got a lot stronger over time. My life now isn,t perfect but i,m happily retired, i met a terrific lady and she loves this hobby as well, listen if you guys are still here and active, thanks for your encouragement, i found it hard to believe that any one would care enough to speak out and you did, you made a difference, Thanks again Jim __________________ 125, 6ft Dual Overflow, 55 Sump, Swc 150, Jebao 5000, 2x Heaters, 2x Gfo Rx, 2x QP900, Led, T5Ho, 160 lbs Rock, 3 inches Argonite, Big Fuge with Cheato and Rock, Frogspawn, Torch, Grn and Blk Flor, Brain, Leathers, Cabbage Coral, Crotea Clam, Zoas, Mushrooms, Gsp, Foxface, Purple Tang, Leapard Wrasse, Engineer Goby, 2x B&W Clowns, 10 Turbos, 10 Nazz. Emerald Crab, Blood Shrimp, 2x Pepperments,

06-14-2019, 10:24 PM	#8
Hamish Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2014 Location: Wingham, ON, Canada Posts: 279 Feedback Score: (1)	Please close this thread, thanks __________________ 125, 6ft Dual Overflow, 55 Sump, Swc 150, Jebao 5000, 2x Heaters, 2x Gfo Rx, 2x QP900, Led, T5Ho, 160 lbs Rock, 3 inches Argonite, Big Fuge with Cheato and Rock, Frogspawn, Torch, Grn and Blk Flor, Brain, Leathers, Cabbage Coral, Crotea Clam, Zoas, Mushrooms, Gsp, Foxface, Purple Tang, Leapard Wrasse, Engineer Goby, 2x B&W Clowns, 10 Turbos, 10 Nazz. Emerald Crab, Blood Shrimp, 2x Pepperments,

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